Normalcy in Kabul? Some keep up appearances

updated 6:00 p.m. ET Oct. 31, 2009

KABUL - Kabul remains on edge, with suicide bombings shattering any peace and the growing strength of the Taliban-led insurgency on everyone's mind.

Yet men in 1970s style white suits and bright shirts accompanied by burqa-clad wives still take leisurely strolls in the quieter parts of the city. Crowds in the rundown zoo watch a sleeping lion or bears lazing in the sun. And boys flying kites bring color and cheer to a sky defined by a U.S. military surveillance balloon.

The city remains steadfast, tenaciously clinging to what little is left of its better, bygone days. Today, they seem like pockets of normalcy, hidden away, almost like secrets.

Among those pockets is the historic Baghe Babur Gardens, where on a recent night it did not take long for everyone to realize that Mohammed Aziz was the best dancer.

The 18-year-old Kabul University student danced his heart out. His closest rivals could not keep up. One by one, they bowed out.

Alone on the dance floor and watched by a cheering, all-men audience of about 100, Aziz continued to energetically and gracefully twirl and turn with every drum beat.

He wore a white long tunic and baggy trousers, with an elegant black waistcoat on top. His long black hair fluttered in the air as he shook his head wildly. He was in a zone.

A concerned friend walked over to him. With an affectionate embrace, he stopped him and the two men quietly walked away. Aziz wore the smile of a man who has just vanquished a sworn enemy.

Thousands of Kaboulis flock to the Baghe Babur Gardens every Friday, seeking a respite from the grind of the city below. They picnic, play cards or Karambul, a billiard-like game played on a plywood board, or just relax on the lawns of the terraced gardens.

The gardens, home of the tomb of Babur, the first Mughal emperor, date back to the 16th century. They were a frontline during the civil war of the 1990s but were recently restored.

Every Friday, hired drummers play traditional music in the gardens. Routinely, young men gather and, sure enough, they start doing the Attan, a dance performed by a single file of men or women in a half circle.

For the men at Baghe Babur Gardens, it's an opportunity to show off and compete against other dancers.

"Dancing is very beautiful," said Aziz, flushed and out of breath after his impressive performance. "It's like a competition. I want to show that I am strong, so I keep going while the others tire and bow out."

"Good dancers also attract girls," he said with a smile.

Solace at shrines
Shiray was crying incessantly. His burqa-clad mother tried to soothe him, but the tears kept rolling down from the kohl-lined eyes of the 2-month-old baby boy.

Mohammed Humayoun, a community healer of sorts who says he is in his 70s, had to work faster.

He rolled out yard after yard of brown thread. He made sure that all of it touched the ancient tomb placed in the middle of the room. When he had enough, he made a bracelet of the thread, big enough for Shiray to wear on his tiny wrist.

Gemunu Amarasinghe / AP Abdul-Manan soothes his soon at the ancient shrine of Ashqan and Arefan in Kabul.

It worked. Shiray, the youngest of seven siblings, was finally quiet. He closed his eyes and fell asleep, maybe exhausted by all the crying.

Satisfied with the result, 42-year-old baker Abdul-Manan, the father, discreetly placed a small bill in Humayoun's hand.

"I traveled a long way to come here," said the father, who uses one name. "He is crying all the time, but now, inshallah (with God's will) he will be fine."

The ancient shrine of Ashqan and Arefan — two brothers thought to have brought Islam to Afghanistan — is one of the many sites in the Afghan capital considered holy by the country's Muslim population. They are mostly tucked away in the rocky hills surrounding the city and in its old quarter.

They are places where Afghans seek spiritual solace and reaffirm their ties to centuries-old customs that are daily challenged by a world changing around them.

"Parents bring their children to me and I find something to help them," said Humayoun, in a heavy jacket with a fur collar to fend off the morning chill. "Some of the children are possessed by genies, but a charm from me banishes them."

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