Tech aplenty for cheaters, suspicious spouses

It’s still about surveillance, but now the technology provides his investigators with long-range digital cameras, GPS trackers (only on jointly owned vehicles), keystroke-capturing software and hidden mini-cams.

Infidelity doesn’t discriminate — couples affected are seemingly happy, straight or gay. DeLorenzo has some long-term clients who keep their spouses in sight if a pattern is established in their cheating behavior.

They follow men 55 percent of the time — down from 80 percent in his father’s day. Seventy-five percent of his female clients reconcile with their guys, while the same number of male clients dump their wives once they receive confirmation of their worst fears.

“There is no one out there we cannot catch,” DeLorenzo claimed. “They can only cover their tracks so much. Sooner or later they have to meet.”

And what if they never do? What if it’s all online?

“When you’re showing affection to someone else or doing anything you can’t do in front of a wife or girlfriend (or husband, boyfriend, live-in), that’s considered cheating,” DeLorenzo said.

If you’re not able to fork over the $500 to $1,000 it would take to engage a PI, there are ways to gather evidence with as much stealth as the wayward spouse.

Over at stores like SpyGear4U.com, there is a whole page of gadgets you can buy under the link, “Catch a Cheater.” On it: GPS (real-time trackers costing $599) or motion-sensitive digital videos hidden inside air purifiers and clock radios, and recorders disguised as pens. (Warning: check your state’s wire-tapping laws to make sure you’re not doing anything illegal if you go the surreptitious voice-recording route.) There’s even a semen test kit for use on clothing, for those inclined to go a little CSI.

Suspicious partners can also download keyloggers like E-Blaster, Acespy.com, Revealer and Spectorsoft.com to record every keystroke without their partner’s knowledge. Results can be e-mailed upon activity, which could provide some definitive proof, but warning: there is also potential for heartache in reading graphic or explicit sexual language in e-mails and instant messages (TMI!)

Pulling up histories on Internet searches can also clue in the betrayed to their sweetie's visits to dating services and personals.  Options on IM programs and Google bars can also allow them to automatically keep a record of those conversations.

The betrayed also have forums online where they can gain support, advice and reassurance from others going through what they’re experiencing, such as SurvivingInfidelity.com, where investigative techniques are shared after a certain number of legitimate posts.

DeLorenzo is also launching Infidelity.com as an advice site with legal and investigative experts to help those in need.

The impulse to verify what the spouse is up to is strong, Houston said, but it must be met.

“The reason why you’d want to know, if it turns out to be true, you can’t afford to be last one to know,” she said. “You want to protect yourself sexually, legally. You want to find out if this is a fling or is this something serious, am I looking at a divorce somewhere down the road? You have to find out.”

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