How to network at a holiday party

Focus on the give and take of conversation. The same question is likely to come up throughout the party: What do you do professionally? Have a succinct answer prepared. If you're employed, Nierenberg recommends a few seconds introduction that speaks to your industry. For instance, if you sell software, she recommends saying something like, "I sell software that helps computers talk to each other." First tell them what you do, then mention the organization's name, she says.

If you're unemployed, don't blurt that out. "It's too heavy," says Waymon. "They don't know you well enough to help yet." You've got past work experience, so discuss that. Mention the industry you're in and a few other jobs you've held--briefly. Then say, "I have the wonderful prospect of finding a new position in 2008." Then briefly describe what you're looking for.

Always carry a business card. If you're unemployed, create a card with your name, e-mail and phone number. Business cards can also assist in making a graceful exit; sometimes extricating yourself from a conversation is just as hard as getting into one. An easy way to wrap up a conversation is by saying, "It was great to meet you. May I have your business card?" Or simply try saying, 'I'm going to give you time to talk to other people here.'

If you meet someone you do want to speak more with, ask if he or she would like to continue the conversation over coffee when the holidays are over. If that feels too bold, follow up by answering some type of question that person had. For instance, if you learned he or she is planning a trip to Mexico and you recently went there, send an e-mail with some restaurant recommendations or day-trip ideas.

The payoff on this isn't going to come overnight. Jobs aren't going to come pouring in right after the party — think long term.

Most important, have fun — if you've been job hunting for months, that's exactly what you need.

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