Planning a family reunion trip

updated 2:18 p.m. ET May 9, 2007

Ahhh, summer: a time for lying on the beach, taking a road trip, grilling in the backyard -- and, often, going to a family reunion. Whether you love catching up with long-lost cousins or dread the inevitable cheek-pinch from your Aunt Edith, family reunions are a staple of the summer months -- and with many modern families scattered all over the country or even the globe, reunions are increasingly taking on a greater significance.

Because individual members often have to fly or drive long distances to be together, many families are opting to upgrade their reunions from an afternoon at Granny's house to a longer getaway -- like a weekend in the mountains or a few days at the beach. For folks who like to travel, it's a double bonus; you get to catch up with your relatives and explore a new place at the same time.

Of course, planning a vacation for 20 or 30 of your nearest and dearest relatives can be a logistical challenge. That's where our practical tips can help. Read on to learn more about picking the perfect destination, finding the right accommodations and booking travel for large groups.

First Steps
Allow yourself at least six months to a year to plan your reunion, especially if you have a particularly large group or if you're booking flights, cruises or vacation rentals. You'll get more choice and lower prices if you book well in advance.

Your first step is to nominate a group leader to take charge of planning the reunion. Key tasks include researching a destination, booking accommodations, collecting and managing funds, keeping the group informed, and planning activities. For larger groups, you'll probably want to put together a committee to split the duties.

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Once you've picked a leader (or several), you'll need to survey the whole family and make a few basic decisions. How big will your group be? How far is everyone willing to travel, and how much will they be able to spend? If your family is on a tight budget, you may want to consider a short, convenient getaway, like a weekend at a nearby park. If you've got a gang of globetrotters, you can think bigger -- like a Caribbean cruise or a week on the beach in Mexico.

You'll also need to decide on a date. If you have a lot of children in your group, you may have to travel over weekends or school holidays -- but keep in mind that prices may go up during these periods, especially at beach destinations and amusement parks. The group leader should pick three or four different dates and send them around to the whole family for voting, then choose the one that works best for the most people.

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Coordinating a reunion is a daunting task, but there are several Web sites that can help. Both TripHub and Triporama provide comprehensive trip planning features that allow family members to discuss accommodation options, vote on trip dates and R.S.V.P. for the reunion. Meanwhile, trip leaders can post activity schedules and share the latest news about the reunion all in one convenient place -- a much more efficient strategy than phone trees or long e-mail chains.

Where to Go
When choosing a destination for your reunion, keep in mind your family's budget, interests and age range. You'll want a place that has activities for all ages, and that is affordable and convenient enough for everyone to get to. If you have a lot of family members arriving by air, for example, you may not want to pick a resort that's three hours from the nearest airport.

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Beaches and national parks are popular choices, particularly for families who enjoy outdoor activities like swimming, hiking or boating. Groups with a high proportion of young (or young-at-heart) travelers may prefer an amusement park destination like Orlando or Anaheim. And don't rule out a big-city getaway -- an urban cocktail of museums, zoos, parks, shopping and nightlife can keep even the most diverse family entertained.

For more ideas, check out our destination communities and member trip reports.

Where to Stay
Do you love the idea of your whole family bonding in one big house or lodge, hanging out on the front porch and cooking meals together? Or does the very thought of sharing bathrooms and staying under the same roof as your in-laws give you hives?

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When choosing your accommodations, keep in mind just how much family togetherness is right for your group. Renting one big house for everyone may be the cheapest option, but it may not be worth the tension and stress if your family isn't used to spending long periods of time together. You may want to consider renting individual cabins or condo units instead -- that way everyone gets a little privacy, but you still get the money-saving option of buying groceries and preparing your own meals.

However, rentals aren't for everybody. If it doesn't feel like a vacation to you unless someone else is doing the cooking, your family might do better at a resort or hotel, or on a cruise ship. These are also good options if certain members of your family are seeking amenities like gyms, pools, room service or kids' programs.

In addition, be sure to consider any special needs your family might have. Great Aunt Mildred can't get around without her walker? Skip the three-story manor house with tons of stairs. Cousin Billy is allergic to milk, wheat, peanuts, soy and 12 different types of fruit? A self-catering vacation rental might be your best bet.

One final word of advice: don't force togetherness. If different members of your family have different needs or budgets, there's no reason that you all have to spend the night in the same place -- remember, you can always hang out together during the day.

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